Weekly Photo 14/52 for 2013: Birthday Bouquet

Weekly Photo 14/52 for 2013: Birthday Bouquet by Kristen Koster on FlickrToday’s weekly photo post prolongs my birthday celebration from Wednesday. These are the Peruvian lillies my mom sent and DH’s family also sent flowers too so even inside our house looks like Spring now! Hopefully everyone is starting to enjoy a little Spring in their corner of the world, well except for those of you in Australia or New Zealand and other areas south of the equator… time to snuggle up for some Autumn coziness!

If you’re curious about some trivia from my birthday, check out this post from 5 years ago where I did a Thursday Thirteen round-up of things that happened on April 3, 1968. And yeah… now you know exactly how old I am. And some days I feel it, plus a couple decades. =)

Thanks to everyone who sent me Happy Birthday wishes from all over the internet, they were greatly appreciated!

Happy B-day to Me!

No big plans today, no big post like last year. I haven’t even decided where we’re going out for dinner tonight. In the last year, I haven’t noticed “life began at 40”, but hey, it’s still early, right?

Two best gifts so far? An actual plan to make DS feel better and DD comes home from camp today!

Another of the Romance Divas (or is that two people?) shares my birthday as well. Two of my friends from Cub Scouts do as well. Definitely a good day in many ways. And hey, Sebastian Bach and Jamie Hewlett were born the exact same day, that’s still kinda cool.

Thanks and Possible Breakthrough

FirstShabu Shabu set, link to wikipedia article off, I want to thank everyone for their birthday wishes yesterday!

I had a great day and we went out for Japanese for dinner for something different that the kids and I’d never had before: Shabu Shabu, which is named for the “swish” sound the meat makes when you drag it through the boiling water.

So what’s this have to do with a breakthrough? Not much, really. Except that I’ve been looking at this story as a single big chunk of meat plopped down on the counter. Wrong. It needs to be sliced thinly to bring out the marbling, the texture and flavor. It needs a variety of veggies on the side to season it. And most importantly, it needs that pot of boiling water to steep in, to meld everything together into something tasty and new.

Dare I hope that by forcing myself to face this story head-on this week (see boiling pot reference), I’ve managed to push through past the stale synopsis on Wikipedia to something interesting, fun, and that will qualify as a romance (see the something tasty and new reference)?

What I realized is that everything I’ve done so far has been solely for my benefit. The majority of what I’ve cluttered up my brain, blog and hard drive with regarding this story so far will never see the page in the final story. I don’t consider it wasted time at all because I had to know it and work through it to find the story that was hiding underneath.

Unfortunately, what I did realize is that I’ve mostly abandoned the approach I was trying to take. I still think it’s very puzzle-like in trying to determine what goes where, what A means for B, and why C has to happen before D can. But thinking about the “layout” and who and what need to populate the story have been pushed aside in my quest to find the story I want to write itself.

Now that I have an overview of what I want to do (and it might not look like it contains all the same plot points as before, but they’re still bouncing around my head and woven in and around what is there. The original folktale seems to be mostly backstory and supporting details for the hero’s storyline, but the heroine is taking over the show and what the story is about has changed because of the decisions I’ve forced the characters to make and the histories I’ve given them.

So, back to swishing these poor characters around. Mmm… it’s starting to look like soup… I mean a story! What do you think?

Alexander can’t help helping others and when he learns a woman has been kidnapped from the old gypsy woman he rescued from a ditch, things start to go wrong. He finds the woman, but Anthea refuses to leave before she can recover the key to her father’s breeding program that was stolen by her “captives”. Meanwhile, the matriarch plans to force Anthea into marriage with her eldest son because of her own impeccable bloodline. Eventually, Alex figures out that he needs a little outside help in order to help solve Anthea’s problems and that he likes her as she is. Alex and Anthea manage to escape with the key but the family pursues them. Will society’s notions of propriety trap her forever or will true love free her to be her self.

Oh, and you can expect to hear a lot more about a couple of my presents in the future: DH got me Robert McKee’s Story: Substance, Structure, Style and The Principles of Screenwriting and my mom got me a copy of Nancy Kress’s Beginnings, Middles & Ends.

Thursday Thirteen: Happy Birthday!

Thursday Thirteen

 

13 Happenings On April 3, 1968

 

You say it’s your birthday? Well, it’s my birthday too! This is somewhat of a running joke in my son’s Cub Scout Pack. I share my birthday with his den leader, but she’s older than I am =P We also share the day with my other friend there’s daughter who will be three-years old. At the meeting last night, she had invitations for a playdate at the park with her and said I could come celebrate too.

Last year, I yelled at another friend for sending me one of those joke emails that get forwarded to everyone you know because it was directed at women over 40 and how life was so much better for them. I took mock offense since I was still legitimately outside that demographic.

So, how’s it feel to be in it now? Bleah. Turning 25 was hard enough. A quarter of a century gone and nothing tangible to show for it. Turning 30 was a breeze except for lugging my DS around in my belly (and for another 18 days afterwards). But I find closing the decade of my thirties is making me look at my accomplishments so far and find them lacking. Oh sure, I have two great kids even though I call them monsters and a wonderful DH who I wouldn’t trade for the world, but I still feel a lack of something to point to where I can say, “I did that!” Maybe I can do something about that.

So, let’s take a look back and see what else happened 40 years ago:

BTW: IE 7 sucks and completely undoes my careful formatting. Firefox is much better for you anyway. =P Go get it. Now. Kthxbye.

1. Martin Luther King, Jr. gave his “I’ve been to the mountain top” speech in Memphis, TN. It was rather difficult to find other happenings on this date because of this and his assassination the next day. My mom remembers being in the hospital with me as a newborn wondering if there were going to be riots an hour away in Baltimore on the 4th.
2. From all the casualty reports from April 3, 1968, you’d never know that North Vietnam agreed to meet with US Representatives to set up preliminary peace talks.
3. The largest draft card turn-in to date in Boston, MA was the same day. How’s that for irony?
4. Concerts that day included: Jimi Hendrix in Virginia Beach, VA and the Grateful Dead at the Winterland Arena in San Francisco, CA.
5. After the NY premiere of 2001: A Space Odyssey that night, Stanley Kubrik went back to the drawing board and cut 19 minutes of the film.
6. There was some competition at the theaters, as Planet of the Apes also opened everywhere in the US that night.
7. Of course, if you were the stay at home type, you may have watched the finale of the sixth season of the Beverly Hillbillies instead.
8. Simon and Garfunkel’s Bookends album was released that day as well.
9. The Volkswagon Country Buggy was released to the public. The question still remains, “WHY!?” I guess it was their version of the Hummer. Only uglier, if possible.
10. Sebastian Bach of Skid Row was born in the Bahamas. My parents visited the Bahamas during my mom’s pregnancy with me. Wonder if we were both there at the same time, unable to enjoy the view.
11. Mike Lansing of the Montreal Expos was also born that day.
12. Remember the redhead from the 1994 movie Four Weddings and a Funeral? Charlotte Coleman was born then too. Unfortunately, she died in Nov. 2001 of an asthma attack =(
13. Tank Girl comic book artist and Gorillaz co-creator, Jamie Hewlett was also born forty years ago today.

Links to other Thursday Thirteens!

1 Kathleen Oxley 2 Winter 3 Alice Audrey
4 Danica/Dream 5 nicholas 6 Gina Ardito
7 SandyCarlson 8 Deanna Dahlsad 9 Tempest Knight
10 Thea @ I’m a Drama Mama 11 On a Limb with Claudia 12 Jennifer McKenzie
13 Sarah in Disturbia 14 Di 15 R.G. Alexander
16 Kimberly Menozzi 17 Tamy 3 Sides of Crazy 18 Jeanine
19 Sandier Pastures 20 Paige Tyler 21 Robin L. Rotham
22 The Pink Flamingo 23 A. Catherine Noon 24 Laura
25 Susan Helene Gottfried 26 Motherhood for Dummies 27 Gwen Mitchell

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Inspiration & Birthdays!

lightbulbDon’t you wish you could see the actual moment when the lightbulb metaphorically clicks on over your head? Me too. Then there would be physical evidence you could point to and exclaim, “Aha!” You’d instantly know the feeling and be able to better recognize it the next time inspiration struck and be ready to capitalize on it
It’s difficult generating your own inspiration if you’re not used to doing it. I think kids have it the easiest. They can pick up and start a game of make-believe with the most complicated rules and ideas on the spot. Me? I have to work at it. Nothing feels natural any more. Everything feels contrived and I end up walking away feeling old, tired and jaded.

Maybe I need to spend a few afternoons playing on the floor with the kids under a blanket that’s standing in for a castle, or just spinning in the yard and collapsing to look up at the sky and see what all is living and playing in the clouds. Heck, they can turn a video game about racing into a school house in the blink of an eye. It’s a shame that sense of wonder and amusement t as we grow older and take on more responsibilities and give in to pressures that leave us with little time to look at the world through the eyes of a child.

You’d think it was my birthday instead of DH’s and my uncle’s with such gloomy!

So what grand romantic gesture did I make today? Well, he’s out of town, so I took his car and had it lubed, washed and filled the tank with gas. Usually, you see this one work the OTHER way around, right? Not in our house. I know it’s not something he thinks about, and every so often I take care of his car. It eliminates a dreaded errand for him and gives me a little peace of mind concerning his safety as he’s driving around.

Happy Birthday, dear.